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. Any old thing good enough for those she loves most! Thinkof it!15A certain very lovely lady whose husband is quite as much her loveras in the days of his courtship, has never in twenty years allowed himto watch the progress of her toilet, because of her determination neverto let him see her except at her prettiest.Needless to say, he nevermeets anything but prettiest manners either.No matter how out ofsorts she may be feeling, his key in the door is a signal for her toGet any book for free on: www.Abika.com ETIQUETTE IN SOCIETY, IN BUSINESS, IN POLITICS AND AT HOME451sorts she may be feeling, his key in the door is a signal for her to put aside everything that is annoying or depressing, with the resultthat wild horses couldn t drag his attention from her all becauseneither she nor he has ever slumped into the gray flannel wrapperhabit.16So many people save up all their troubles to pour on the one theymost love, the idea being, seemingly, that no reserves are necessarybetween lovers.Nor need there be really.But why, when their houselooks out upon a garden that has charming vistas, must she insist onhis looking into the clothes-yard and the ash-can?17She who complains incessantly that this is wrong, or that hurts, orany other thing worries or vexes her, so that his inevitable answer toher greeting is, I m so sorry, dear, or That s too bad, or Poordarling, it s a shame, is getting mentally into a gray flannel wrapper!18If something is seriously wrong, if she is really ill, that is different.But of the petty things that are only remembered in order to be told togain sympathy beware!19There is a big deposit of sympathy in the bank of love, but don tdraw out little sums every hour or so so that by and by, whenperhaps you need it badly, it is all drawn out and you yourself don tknow how or on what it was spent.20All that has been said to warn a wife from slovenly habits of mind ordress may be adapted to apply with equal force in suggesting a rulefor husbands.A man should always remember that a woman s regardfor him is founded on her impressions when seeing him at his best.Even granting that she has no great illusions about men in general, heat his best is at least an approximation to her ideal and it is his chiefduty never to fall below the standard he set for himself in making hismost cogent appeal.Consequently he should continue through theyears to be scrupulous about his personal appearance and his clothes,remembering the adage that the most successful marriages are thosein which both parties to the contract succeed in keeping up theillusion. It is of importance also that he refrain from burdening hiswife with the cares and worries of his business day.Many writersinsist that the wife should be ready to receive a complete consignmentof all his troubles when the husband comes home at the end of theday.It is a sounder practise for him to save her as much as possiblefrom the trials of his business hours; and, incidentally, it is the bestkind of mental training for him to put all business cares behind him ashe closes the door of his office and goes home.When it is said that ahusband should not fling all the day s trifling annoyances into the lapof his wife without reflecting that she may have some cares of herown, there is no intention to indicate that a wife should not have athorough understanding of her husband s affairs.Completeacquaintance and sympathy with his work is one of the foundationGet any book for free on: www.Abika.com ETIQUETTE IN SOCIETY, IN BUSINESS, IN POLITICS AND AT HOME452acquaintance and sympathy with his work is one of the foundationstones of the domestic edifice
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